Written By: Jessica Small
Being a new mom is tough but being a new mom on a tight schedule has got to take the cake. I know what you’re thinking when you watch Rachel Hollis’ Instagram while eating a pint of Ben and Jerry’s half-baked in the socks you got from the hospital, “How does she keep it all together?” Well, I’m not quite sure, but I’m thinking it has a little something to do with being forgiving with herself and time management. So, put down the ice cream, grab and pen and pencil, and let’s get down to business.
Time management is not my strong suit, and if you’re anything like me, you probably make mental notes of things you would like to do for the day but end up feeling guilty about not following through with what you said you’d do. That’s one of the things I find to be a struggle, we expect people to follow through for us, but we don’t do it for ourselves. So start small with short term goals; for example, sorting through all of the baby shower clothes and finally finding a place for them, or organizing the baby supplies, bottles, wipes, wipe warmer, and diapers.
Once we have the short-term goals out of the way we think about the near future goals. One goal could be going back to work and deciding who will watch the baby. I know this all looks and sounds stressful but cut yourself a break you’re a new mama you’re not supposed to have it all together. You need to allow yourself the space to love and heal. Perfecting a routine doesn’t come overnight, give yourself some time.
Finally, let’s think about some long-term goals, this could be figuring out the best time to introduce new foods to a picky eater, setting personal and professional goals for yourself, where do you see yourself in the next 2-3 years, or saving up for the mom car you know you need. These are the most important goals.
I can’t tell you what your routine should be, everybody’s baby and life are entirely different. There isn’t a blueprint to this mom thing, there isn’t a rule book to raising children, but there are things that we can do as women to help ourselves move in a direction that works for us. Take your time, be more forgiving with yourself, show yourself some compassion. Motherhood is hard work, but it shouldn’t be lonely work. If ever you find yourself in a situation where you feel like it’s too much, talks to someone, write it down, dump those thoughts somewhere. Relax, Repair, Restart. You got this!