Why Mom Shaming Has To Stop in 2019
Written by: Alexandria Ellison
Mom-shaming is a trend that must die in 2019. The site for common definitions Urban Dictionary defines mom-shaming as “criticizing or degrading a mother for her parenting choices because they differ from the choices the shamer would make,” and there were too many instances of it last year. Unfortunately, if you’re a mother, many feel the right to criticize your parenting skills. Whether being condemned for the way you decide to dress your child or your child’s diet, mothers are under constant attack, and this has to change in 2019. Of course, for celebrities, the mom-shamers are especially hard to avoid. They appear everywhere in the form of commenters online to tabloid writers. Let’s look back at some glaring instances of mom-shaming in 2018, and how these moms stood up for themselves.
Kissing your baby seems like an appropriate form of affection, right? Well, mom-shamers don’t think so. After actress Gabrielle Union posted a picture of her NBA husband Dwayne Wade kissing their baby girl on the lips, mom-shamers were quick to criticize. Some commenters remarked things like, “Take your lips off of that child, kids are so sensitive nowadays. The cheek and forehead are good." Rather than letting these mom-shamers get the best of her, Union continues to post adorable pictures of her baby and her husband.
Another mom who is no stranger to mom-shaming is, of course, Kim Kardashian. Regardless of your feelings about the reality star, there is no denying that Kim Kardashian gets plenty of unnecessary hate comments about her parenting skills. At the very start of 2018, Kim was already receiving criticism for going out on New Year’s Eve. Mom-shamers thought she was celebrating the New Year while her son with rapper Kanye West, Saint, was in the hospital. However, her son had been released the day before, and Kim was quick to defend herself against the mom-shamers in a tweet saying, “I did not leave my son for one minute during his hospital stay. We were there Wednesday night to Saturday. NYE WAS SUNDAY NIGHT. People came over when he was already asleep for the night! Don't even try me when it comes to my kids.” Take some notes moms; don’t be shy to stand up for yourself against your mom-shamers.
Model Chrissy Teigen is also not a stranger to mom-shaming. Her husband, famous singer John Legend told Today Parents that he feels the amount of criticism his wife gets is unfair, and that typically men do not have to deal with such parenting critiques. “I think the expectation from the general public is that the mom is more responsible for raising the child, and I think there’s more of a culture around mommy shaming than there is around dad shaming,” he said. “So Chrissy has to deal with it more.”
In 2019, let’s hope Teigan and other moms will not have to deal with mom-shaming anymore because it will be a trend that is no longer accepted.